Become the best version of yourself

I just watched one of the most amazing videos ever. It was a speech given by Lisa Nichols at Mindvalley’s A-Fest in January 2016 (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4JLjnwuMcA8). I can’t remember the last time I was being moved to tears like that. Crying like a little boy, and embracing it.

This blog entry shall sum up her main message and add my personal take on it.

The main message is simple and straight forward. Become the best version of yourself. Period. Don’t be ok with mediocracy, because you are unique, you are special and you came here with a Devine quest. Dream big, don’t fear your own brilliance. And it is a given fact, it is in there with you.

Don’t fear your own brilliance

We tent to not dream big enough. Pleasing ourselves with average and being contempt with what is. When in fact there is something in us, a little baby of brilliance, if you want to call it like that, that needs to be brought to this world. It’s our mission to give birth to that brilliance. To that one thing that only we can do.

Each of us adds something completely unique and beautiful to this world. Nobody else has it but you. It is your Devine quest to share that – what ever it is – share THAT with the world. Don’t fear your own brilliance, but fully embrace it.

Don’t look back on the wrong decisions you made. Because guess what, there are no wrong decisions, there is no wrong path, there is but your path. And every so called mistake you made has brought you right here right now. And right here and right now is where you can start your journey yet a new. That journey to greatness. That journey to fulfilling the Devine purpose within you.

Forgive yourself, for everything supposedly wrong you ever did, reach out a hand to that little child within you and give it a hug. It is ok. You are ok. In fact you are more than just ok, you are beautiful, everything about you is beautiful. It is even these imperfections that are beautiful that make you unique that make you – perfect.

Hugging that little child within you, cheer up. Draw courage and look to that version of yourself you are going to become. That strong man, that strong women that shines and inspires others.

Your dream is not just about you

Because that’s what it is all about. Your dream is not just about you, it is in fact about all the others around you. You live your dream not just for yourself – no. You live it, so you become an inspiration for all those around you. So that they too dare to dream big, dare to become the best version of themselves, dare to become brilliant and add their divinity to that heavenly quest. Add it so we all can become one wonderful family together, here and right now.

Fulfil your potential and serve as a role model for all the people around you. Every time they breath but your oxygen, they see but your smile and they feel your loving vibe they will know that they themselves, are here to become that. That Divinity within them. They will dare to dream big, to go beyond what they sought to be possible.

The world needs you

It is this attitude. This mindset and this conviction that is needed. That conviction to become our best selves. Not just for ourself, but for all of us. If each of us can be encouraged to be exactly that we will build a wonderful world. One that inspires everybody to be free, to be authentic to be  themselves. 100% all day every day, singing dancing and speaking in their own unique rhythm adding to the world family their specific field and vibe of joy and beauty.

Be yourself, be authentic, be courageous to be fully you. That Divinity within you. If not for yourself, then please do it for all of us.

Thank you Lisa for sharing your wonderful purpose, for the inspiration. Thank you dear reader for taking the time, for caring, and thank you most and foremost for being here in this wonderful journey together with us. Thank you for sharing your brilliance and light. You are awesome!

Collaboration trumps competition

Individuality is important. It helps us to develop ourselves, discover our potential and distinguish ourselves from our environment. In modern society however there is tendency of an overemphasised individualism – of the idea to compete against others, rather than seeking out help or building something together in the spirit of collaboration.

Where does it come from?

The way of permanent growth might be embedded in Darwin’s evolutionary theory. Most of us have heard the main title of his theory “on the origin of species”, but the subtitle explains it even better: “preservation of favoured races in the struggle of life”, or in other words, the survival of the fittest. That idea, that nature selects those species, which are the toughest, or actually which are the most adopted, to let them evolve. Through this process allegedly men was evolved as well.

There are some flaws to this theory, which are however not subject of this article. It is merely put here to explain, why we might think the way we think.

It starts at a young age

From a young age on we learn to compete against one another. Every now and then there is some teamwork involved, but it does not seem to be emphasised. When we attend school, we are asked to sit quietly most of the time and listen. The teachers ask questions, we raise our hands and get rewarded for the correct answers we give. When it comes to the exams we are on our own again. Only the individual performance is evaluated. From an individual point of view it does not matter, whether you’re classmates fail or not.

It is very similar when you attend college. You might form some learning groups here and there but the educational system itself does not promote collaboration, rather focuses on the individual.

In the job it might evolve to be different. Depending on your corporate environment, you may have to learn to function as a team or a unit. But on the next higher level you are again competing against other companies in an open market.

Even beyond that our society is build on the idea of competition. Whole nations compete against one another in the struggle for political or economical power.

Competition brings advantages but is heavily overrated

The constant competition might help in enhancing specific products. To be able to compete with others, you constantly need to adopt to an ever changing environment. So it seems to add to that swiftness of evolving.

The competition also helps in quickly understanding which ideas work and which don’t. You can have great ideas in your mind, but when you put them out into the real world, driven by a competitive market, you will see really how feasible they are. That way the competition helps to sort out the good from the bad ideas.

But then again one might ask what exactly are good or bad ideas. From the current perspective good means most and foremost one thing – profitable. It does however not include what impact it might have on the life of others. Simply, because we are not raised and incentivised in our education to think about those around us. We are not raised to think about the ecological and social impact of our actions.

The danger of the current paradigm

Now what might have pushed our technological advance, does not seem to be applicable anymore in a world that is deeply connected. Our actions do impact the people next to us and our environment as well.

We are currently facing tremendous ecological challenges. The planet suffers from the exploitation of its resources, the deforestation, the pollution of oceans and natural habitats and the extinction of species.

The challenges are also quite obvious on a social level. Widespread poverty, failing states, and ongoing wars are but some of the prime examples, indicating that the current paradigm is no longer feasible.

These problems appear on such a high scale, that they cannot be solved by just one person, a company or even a nation. They have to be solved by humanity.

Collaboration trumps competition

Each of us comes with unique skills and talents to this life. Talents that can be used to solve specific problems. These skills provide possibility for great ideas and solutions. But sometimes a sort of catalyst might be needed. Another person with another skill to bring forth this aspect of yourself. This is one of the beauties of collaboration. The harmonious promotion of talents within one another.

Beyond the skills it might also be specific fields of knowledge, that alone already bring some insights, but when combined with another faculty offer an even greater understanding.

To solve the complex problems of our current society, we need to draw from different faculties and combine all sorts of talents of individuals to come up with solutions that help each of us. Projects like “the ocean cleanup” are born out of this exact process and can only be formed through the combination of, in this case, experts from the fields of engineering, maritime biology, entrepreneurship, finance, marketing and many more. 

To go fast, go alone. To gar far, go together

According to this African proverb, we need to shift to a more collaborative way of thinking. An approach that combines the faculties of all members of a group or a society to come up with the urgent needed solutions for the complex challenges of today.

And after all, isn’t it much more joyful and fulfilling to build and create something together that helps all of humanity, rather than fighting on your own and just for your own good?

How to discover the truth

How do we find reality or the truth? In a world full of religions, philosophies and mystery schools, there seem to be numerous opinions on what reality is. How can we know which of these is the right one? How can we discover truth for ourselves?

All schools offer some insight

Each of the religions, philosophies and mystery schools offer valuable lessons if you study them thoroughly. Lessons, that help you be a genuine person, that help you to answer some of the very questions of life. Nowadays however it seems like many of the original teachings have been lost and have been replaced by some of the practitioners perspectives.

That’s why most of these schools provide you with somewhat distorted answers. What they teach as the ultimate truth is in fact but a perspective. And although each of them claim to be so different from the others, they do talk about the same thing – unity.

Go beyond and find out for yourself

It is easy to follow these concepts, for they provide you with answers and free you of the burden of search. But if you are earnestly seeking, you have to go beyond that and find out for yourself.

It is reasonable to be a healthy sceptic about the concepts introduced to you and to reflect upon them based on your own experience. You still want to remain open though, to let in some of the new knowledge, which in its essence is still there. But you shouldn’t just follow blindly.

Your heart can be a good indicator in feeling what might be true and what not, or what might be true and beneficial for your individual path.

The Vedic way

In the quest of gaining a deeper understanding, I found the Vedic way, which to me offers a very practical approach. The Veda is a compendium of ancient texts stemming from the Indus Valley Culture, describing life itself. It is magnificently structured in that it explains the whole creation in just a letter “A” and then unfolds itself into various books and branches (one of them being Ayurveda).

In the Veda the approach to discover reality consists of three different aspects: direct experience, understanding and validation. Each of these steps are crucial in finding reality.

Most of the schools of thoughts can provide us with understanding and validation. They explain to you what man is and how the world came to be. The Christian teachings might be more appealing to you than the muslim teachings or vice versa. Each of them have reasonable perspectives, that can help you in the quest of gaining a deeper understanding. In your study you may also find many overlaps, pinpointing to a common foundation that predates each of the current religions.

They can also provide you with a sort of validation, stemming from holy scriptures and from the experiences of saints, prophets and the illumined.

But in most of these schools there is one thing missing, which might be the most important of these three. It is the direct experience. Only the direct experience will provide you with a knowingness, that something actually exists.

They can tell you all day long about the God, the universe or the transcendent, the field of underlying unity in all the diversity. But words can never begin to describe what these are. They are beyond intellectual understanding. Only direct experience can show it to you. Until you have had that experience, everything will remain a concept, just words. They might be plausible and appealing words, but they remain words.

Direct experience, understanding and validation will lead you

Whatever school of thought you find appealing, you should find a way to validate their teachings for yourself. They should come along with rituals or techniques, that allow a direct experience. If they cannot provide you with that, you may want to try something else.

Once you have these direct experiences, combined with an understanding and a validation of what happened, you have gained a tool that allows you to discover reality for yourself, irrespective of what others tell you. This is the way to “the truth”.