Pending between extremes, finding the point of balance

In this article I reflect upon finding the moderate way. The point of balance, that allows constant growth. Not aiming too high, for it might frustrate or pressure you, neither aiming too low, for it might limit your potential growth.
To make it concrete, I relate this story to my personal quest of writing, which, as it turns out, was a bit too ambitious in writing 100 articles in just 100 days. Time to realign and remember what the actual goal is.

Enjoy 🙂

When you aim too high, you might get frustrated, when you aim too low, you become stagnant. In finding your path to continuous growth and ever increasing happiness it is all about balance, about finding the proper dosage for multiple aspects of life.

Getting to know the extremes

Where is that balance? Well, it is in between the extremes. To find out that point or area of balance, we sometimes have to investigate the extremes first.

Every aspect of life has these extremes. It is part of the principle of polarity. Hot and cold, love and hate, discipline and laziness and so forth.

What seems like opposite things are in fact the same phenomena, they are just different in degree.

We tend to bounce back from one extreme to the other extreme, which is also very natural. This is called the principle of rhythm. Seldom do we remain stuck on one extreme, but instead move from one pole to the next. The further we move to the one side, the further we move to the other again.

Quite similar it was for me with writing. First I was reluctant to write anything at all, then I created a website and set out to write everyday. I then bounced back again to only writing personally, but not daily and most recently I went back yet another time to the other extreme, when I set out to write one article every day for 100 days.

The constant back and forth can be quite exhausting at times. The key here is to become aware of this process, become aware of the constant movement between the extremes and to then come closer to that point of balance.

Balancing the extremes

Nobody can tell you where exactly that point of balance lies, because this point depends on the concrete aspect and most and foremost on your individual inclination.

Whatever it is, you might want to find a point that is slightly above your comfort-zone. A point that allows you constant growth, without adding unnecessary pressure. A point, that is in accord with your goals and allows steady progression in the pace that fits you.

In my personal case with writing, I set the bar too high. Publicly declaring to write 100 articles in 100 days created extra pressure, which is in my particular case not needed at all. I already tend to be extremely disciplined. I meditate twice a day, I do Yoga 2-3 times a day, I eat healthy and all of these each and every day, just to mention some of my habits. So discipline is not really an issue for me. If I was a lazy person, struggling with my growth, that extra motivation of making that quest public might have helped to exactly reach that point of balance needed to progress. In my case however this does not hold true, for it added pressure where there was needed none. Instead I could set out to allocate 30 minutes everyday to working on this skill.

Zoom out, gain perspective

Sometimes we are too caught up in our everyday work and progress, in creating the habits and fulfilling the set expectations, that we lose sight of the bigger picture. I therefore deem it important to every now and then, zoom out. Take a step back, observe the bigger picture and ask yourself, whether you are still in alignment with your goals, and whether your current path is the most beneficial to achieving them in that it is close to the point of balance.

The last two days I did exactly that. I asked myself what I set out to do here. What is it I want to achieve with this task?

What I set out to do was to improve my skills in the science and art of writing. I also want to let loose of the fear, that the contents I write, might not be good enough to publish.

If I zoom out even more, there are two things I want to achieve in life – fulfilling my full potential on every aspect of being from intellectual, emotional, physical to spiritual and sharing whatever knowledge I have acquired, whatever skill I am mastering with others to help them on their individual journey.

Different angles to master a skill

In that quest writing can be a powerful tool, which is why I want to develop it further. There are however different angles and approaches that help to nurture that skill. Writing something everyday might be the most powerful practice to develop the skill. But I certainly do not need to publish one article every day. I can write my 500-1000 words, without publishing them, eventually resulting in a deeper and more detailed essay on a specific subject. Therefore allowing myself a greater degree of flexibility by incorporating different sorts of texts, from spontaneous short pieces, to articles, pose, essays, short stories and other fictional or non-fictional texts.

I can also enhance my writing by spending more time reading great pieces of literature. Learning from the best and consciously investigating techniques and styles of successful authors, of other bloggers of basically any creative or scientific writer.

There are also courses to take. On communication, on creative writing, expression, arts, or in the areas of knowledge I might want to introduce.

So there really are all kind of ways to improve the skill of writing. And so it is with every kind of skill. All we need to do is to set out the intention and finding the amount of time that allows us to steadily progress in a joyful manner to eventually master the skill we set out to learn.

Realigning myself

Having said that, I hereby readjust my quest of writing 100 articles in 100 days. Instead I shall invest half an hour every day to enhance this skill. I am gonna do so by all sorts of methods, primarily by writing. I will still publish some articles and essays every now and then, but I relieve myself from that unnecessary burden of HAVING to do so every day.

By doing this I hope so to release the pressure, and act more from the level of joy and devotion, rather than ambition. Since ambition and discipline is already there, this action of releasing will bring me closer to the balance. It is that balance, that helps me to come closer to the goal of enhancing the skill, and also closer to the two main goals.

It allows a greater degree of flexibility. Should on one day arise the opportunity to be of greater service simply by being present somewhere else, I would be a fool to let it pass only to fulfil my task that I set out publicly. Instead I can be of direct help somewhere else, without losing sight of the goal of enhancing the skill of writing.

That does however not mean, that I regret setting out the task in the first place. It seems to be a valuable lesson, letting go of that self-created pressure and also distancing myself from the idea to having to do something because others might think less of me if I don’t.

So let this be a reminder to myself, and maybe also to you. To try to find that balance point when it comes to discipline and joy, not to do your actions because of what others might think of you but out of an intrinsic motivation and to realign yourself to your goals every now and then.

You can then practice in private and later share in public, which is in accordance with one of the Yogic rules of behaviour. This rule advises to be rather secretive in your quests and only share your accomplishments once you have achieved them. In that spirit, I will continue to craft my skill for the development of clear and understandable language, in the hope that you too, dear reader, might find inspiration for your own journey, might find ideas that help to access your true Self and develop the principles and skills that help you on your individual path, fulfilling your personal potential, allowing you to contribute to the world family so that we collectively rise to new heights of love, peace and abundance.

Start small, dream big!

When we think of our dreams, many doubts may arise. Sometimes, they just seem too big, too far-fetched, too long down the way. But we don’t have to achieve it in just one day. If we create a clear vision and consistently work towards the realisation of that vision, anything is possible.

Now I might not be the perfect example to tell this story. I am no published author, no successful CEO of a company and not a well-known motivational speaker. I have not realised my goals, yet. But like you I have dreams. Let this post be a reminder to you and also to myself, never to stop dreaming and continuously working towards that realisation.

The importance of dreaming

Every great story of success starts with but a dream – a faint idea. Without that dream there is nothing to be created. In a mental universe, everything starts with this process. The process from inspiration to the idea, to the emotional dream to the journey and up to the realised goal.

Sometimes we may can’t even tell where this idea is coming from. There might be some doubts in your mind questioning this idea. But nevertheless, it is there – and it wants to be heard. It is not to be doubted or down-talked. It is there for a reason. It is there to be fulfilled.

There might be other persons with somewhat of a similar vision. But no dream is like yours. The others can be valuable partners. You may team up and merge the ideas to create a strong team behind this endeavour. But still your dream remains. And it is yours to fulfil. This is your personal footprint to leave on this earth. It cannot be fulfilled by anybody but you, because this is your dream, your mission, your personal quest in this life time. Start living it and enact it for your own’s sake and for the good of others.

It starts with but a small step

As Confucius used to say, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step”. Your dream might seem to be distant, unreachable, but that is only because you have not started to consciously walk the path yet. Once you start with the first steps, it will be much more vivid and don’t even seem half as distant. 

Taking these step is important. It actually turns the dream into a vision. It makes it something real. Because now you are not just thinking about it, you are actively walking towards it. And every day brings you closer to it.

Don’t mind taking the wrong step. Going to the left, sometimes to the right or even taking a step back. As long as you are walking, you are getting somewhat closer. And the more you align yourself, the more direct you will walk towards this dream, this vision, this quest of yours.

Aligning your faculties

 As distant as it might seem now, with the alignment of all your faculties, you will draw the strength and the support of nature needed to achieve your vision. Alignment of what? Alignment of all your capacities: Your thoughts, your emotions, your body and your spirit. It is the alignment of these faculties that brings focus and consistency to the steps you take. They form the dream and make it clearer, let it become something more tangible and eventually turn it into reality.

The level of Mind

You start with your mind. Make that commitment to yourself, not to let go of your dream. Eradicate all these limiting beliefs, that you may not be able to achieve your dream.

You will meet many people not resonating with your idea. Thinking it is too far-fetched, impossible to achieve. You may actually be able to learn something from these encounters and fine-tune your skills of expressing your thoughts and inspiring others. But never let their limiting beliefs get to you.

Whenever you feel they these negative limiting thoughts come to your mind, become aware of them, take a deep breath, and let them go. They don’t belong to you but stem from a surrounding that is formed limiting concepts, that tries to keep you small. But you are not! You are of Devine essence and you can achieve whatever you wish to realise. You can do it!

Celebrate the small successes, tap yourself on the shoulder for every little step you take towards your goal and draw courage in them to go some more.

Established in that can-do attitude, start to actively envision this dream of yours. View it from all possible angles. What starts out rather faint, will get clearer and clearer. Add a detail here and another layer there. Keep on imagining and form that dream of yours. Don’t just do it vaguely, but precisely.

If your dream was to build a big house for all of your family, don’t just picture a house, but be fully creative. Visualise that great mansion, built according to ancient Vastu principles on the hillside of your city, facing the sun to the East. Create every single detail, the colour, the style, the Tesla solar panels on the roof, every single room, every single facet. Try to see the garden around it with the beautiful cherry trees and the blossoms flying through the air and into the baroque style spring with the figurine of David. Whatever it is, be creative and precise. Paint a picture as vivid as possible.

Add Emotion to your dream

Now that you have established that clear vision with all its details, imagine being there. Imagine what it feels like having achieved your dream. Feel the lightness, the strength and the energy in your body. Become aware of the emotions. The emotions of joy, happiness, of great pride and even greater humility for having achieved your dream. Connect these emotions to your vision. Every time you think of it, become aware of these emotions, become aware of the body feeling and the joy it creates in you. That way you form your vision. You make it more tangible. And your very being becomes inflicted with it.

The physical level

Being fully established in that clear detailed vision with all the feelings and emotions of lightness and happiness that come with it, you start to use your body to bring it into actual expression.

You may even want to share your ideas. Express them verbally, thereby bridging that gap from your inner to the outer world. You don’t need to tell everybody about it, but you should not hesitate, thinking it might sound too naive or unrealistic. Don’t be apologetic about it. This is your dream, and nobody can take it. Let nobody doubt you. Keep on believing and inspire others with your dream. 

But most and foremost, take action. What do I mean by that? Quite simple – start doing something. Start taking the first steps. Start walking the path. What is it you need to make your dream turn into reality?

Take action and be consistent

Introduce the actions necessary to walk towards that goal. Start making the changes needed to align yourself. You don’t need to do all at once. Just do one at a time and focus on implementing it. It might be that meditation you want to incorporate to calm your mind and improve the access to that creativity of yours. You don’t need to sit down for 10 hours and meditate straight into Nirvana. Start by taking a small step, maybe a practice of just 10 minutes. But do it daily. Just do it. Show up. You don’t need to build that new habit of yours in a day. By showing off everyday for a full month you will have created a habit. Something that supports you in your quest towards realisation of your goal. And then, off to the next thing, that 15 minutes of journaling to work on your expression and reflection abilities. Incorporate it. And then off to the next. That way you can implement powerful habits bit by bit. Habits that create consistency. It is that consistency that helps you to align yourself and walk more straightly towards your goal.

By aligning yourself, you will receive tremendous support of nature

Constantly introducing these conducive habits stemming from a deep commitment, will help you to access that Devine power within yourself. The level of spirit that originally implanted the dream in you. It will help you as a guide, as a beacon in the tougher times. It will provide you with all the support you need. Because this is what you came here to do, this is your path. And if you have the guts to walk it, nature will provide you with the resources, people and experiences you need to fulfil it.

Believe in yourself, dream big and start walking. One step at a time, but continuously towards realising your goal. Committing yourself to your vision, not only will you fulfil your dream and bring it into realisation. Just by playing full out, you will serve as a great inspiration to all of us, encouraging us to dream big and start walking the path like you do.